I thought it would be fun to write a series of posts in which I expand on questions I am commonly asked by the gentlemen who call to book. It’s only natural to have plenty of questions when you’re about to drop a significant amount of money on a booking with an escort. I have a basic FAQ page here, and in a series of blog posts I am going to expand upon some of them.
Q) Is That Really You in the Photos?
The question, “Are those really your photos” is, perhaps unsurprisingly, a common one. I believe the reason it is common is that there are, unfortunately, a fair few misleading advertisers out there. The level of deception can be mild (that is to say, Photoshopped or out-of-date photos) or severe (you will never even meet the woman in the photo.) It seems obvious to me that an independent mature escort who has gone to the trouble of creating a promoting a personal website would be serious about following through with quality service. And there’s no way to deliver quality service if your customer feels betrayed upon arrival. I have no desire to be alone with a man who feels that he has been ripped off and deceived. If I waste your time, I waste my own.
So, the photos on my website, with the rare and obvious exceptions, are amateur snapshots are taken as selfies with a Selfie-stick or with the help of my tripod and remote-control shutter button. Occasionally, I will have a friend help me out by taking some more elaborate posed shots. I also try to make it clear on my gallery page when these photos were taken, with older photos towards the bottom.
I have had professional studio shots done in the past – the glossy ones that you see in many of my headers were taken by a professional photographer in a studio with lighting and the benefit of professional hair and makeup at the end of 2013. I’ll be honest: I only like these photos because they make my site look more glossy and professional. I would like to have more taken but in the future I will guard against looking too done-up. In real life my hair is not professionally styled! I also recognise the need for some airbrushing with these sorts of photos because the high-resolution of the camera lens, coupled with the studio lighting, means the raw photos are OH MY GOD WOULD YOU LOOK AT THE SIZE OF THOSE PORES ON HER NOSE! I am hoping to find a photographer with a good studio who can airbrush the distracting bits without removing the features that give me character, including the crows’ feet around my eyes. I’d like to strike a balance between realistic amateur and glossy professional.
(This is the personal website of Independent MILF Manchester Escort Kimberly C. All content is written by Kimberly C.)
It’s occurred to me that for every gentleman who finds my Manchester City Centre incall flat convenient, there are probably two who would rather have their toenails pulled out than deal with the traffic in the city.
So, I’ve been considering moving to another location, somewhere out by the M62 or M60, and I had a look around at places to sample what that might be like. Huddersfield isn’t far from my home and I had a look to see what sorts of hotels there were – found one right by Junction 24 that looked very fit for purpose and got it for three nights very cheap as I had two free nights from Hotels.com. Another working girl I know in the area had told me that she gets more business from Vivastreet than Adultwork, so I went ahead and bought a month, paying extra for the privilege of moving my postcode (Which will come in handy as I’m visiting Essex in early April!)
Wednesday morning, just before I left, my Lovehoney ordered was delivered:
As I said the other day, I adore sex toysand I had been wanting some new ones. The bright pink vibrating dildo is for clients to use on me – I find my regular hard plastic bullet isn’t comfortable when wielded by another hand as it’s a bit too rigid and feels “pinchy.” This feels great and I know that men love to watch it go in and out of my pussy. In the silver wrappers are two new vibrating cock rings, a very versatile toy that I am never without, and then you see the purple vibrating butt-plug… I love my own silver remote-control bullet so much that I though someone else might enjoy it the sensation, as well. The flared base and power cord means that it will stay in and yet can’t get pulled inside the rectum. I’ve tried it and I have to say that I’m very impressed with some of the varying pulse settings. I threw all of these purchases into my suitcase without editing what was already there and so I brought with me all of this:
The hotel was exactly as I’d expected – a large, sprawling conference centre with a busy lobby full of businessmen. The room was perfectly nice and fit for purpose and I quickly settled in to take bookings.
Unfortunately, I was suffering from “New Girl Syndrome” – that’s when you’re brand new in a location and every nutter in town calls because none of the local girls will give them the time of day. I know to expect this and so I was gamely wading through them, utilising my phone’s “block” feature, when I got caught out by a guy who called to book. Oh, but he got me good! I don’t generally like to tell anyone which hotel I am in until they have booked, and then not which room I am in until they have arrived and are standing outside the hotel. But he caught me off guard by saying that he was attending a conference in the same hotel and could be with me in fifteen minutes. So, I gave him my room number. Twenty minutes later, no sign of the man so I called him. He answered and told me that he’d gone to his room to take a shower and would be “about five minutes” and that was the last I ever heard off him. It is very unsettling to know that someone out there knows what room you are in with no idea who or where they are. I had to go to reception and concoct a good reason to be moved to another room. Such a faff to pack up all those toys! And I learned a valuable lesson about seeing men who are staying in the same hotel AND giving my room number to someone that I wasn’t certain was actually on their way to me. Some girls have men call when they get off the lift and describe what they can see before giving the number. I’m not sure I’m willing to go that far but I think I may if I have any more tense moments.
I did have another nice booking that evening but the combination of goofy phone calls and that creepy guy not showing up wearied me and I was content to turn in early. First days on tour are always a bit hit-and-miss.
Thursday was much better and my new toys got a lot of use. There were still some oddballs calling but I also met quite a few lovely gentlemen. I had some down time and took some selfies to see how I liked my new lipstick (Urban Decay Bolt):
I went to bed confident that I would have an even better day on Friday.
Unfortunately, that was not the case. I did have a lovely booking in the morning with a sexy gentleman from London but the next several hours were spent taking bookings and then cancellations. One after the other, they would call, book, and then a few minutes later, cancel. The primary stumbling block was that I was staying in a hotel. I can understand that some men are nervous about visiting an escort for an incall in a hotel, but I made it very clear in my advertising that that was where I was. Several men asked me, “So, how does it work, exactly?” Had they never stayed in a hotel? It’s really very simple – you walk in and go to the room and then an hour or so later you walk out. I wrote about visiting an escort in a hotel before, and there really is nothing to worry about. I have been doing this for a while, now, and there has never been a problem. But if someone is nervous there’s really nothing I can say that will make them see that.
I spent the afternoon working on this website – as you can see, I have added an email subscription form. Exactly what I will do with it I am not yet entirely sure. I was thinking sending out emails whenever my tour schedule updates. Possibly updates on new blog posts but I wouldn’t want to be too spammy so I think new tour information whenever there’s a change in that, with links to any recent blog posts, would be more than enough. I’m often asked when I will be back in London or Oxford or Glasgow, and I am also asked to save someone’s phone number to let them know when I am back. Well, I don’t believe in texting out of the blue and I don’t have any systems to do that, but perhaps email would be a workable solution.
In the evening, I did finally have another couple of fantastic bookings with truly delightful men – one of whom made me cum very hard with my new pink vibrating dildo and the other of whom experienced one of his most intense orgasms ever with the help of one of the vibrating cock rings.
In between I studied a bit of Spanish in preparation for my holiday next week – I am going to Spain for the first time. Although Spanish is not the first language of Barcelona, I am assured that even the native Catalan speakers will speak Spanish with tourists and I am excited to see how well I do. I started studying on Boxing Day with the goal of learning as much as possible in only eight weeks. I am able to say a fair amount of things in the future and present tenses and can say some things in the past tense. I’m really looking forward to it and I hope to have lots of photos and pictures to share here.
I didn’t have the greatest tour of my life but I am glad I gave it a go. February is not the best month of the year for many industries and I am sure if I return later in the year it will be even better.
(This is the personal website of Mature Manchester Escort KimberlyC. I am an independent MILF who entertains gentlemen in Manchester City Centre, as well as touring – with my toys – to such locations as London, Glagsow, Oxford, and now Huddersfield.)
Even though I’m a mature escort, I still love to play with toys. At least, I love them in the bedroom. Over the past year or two I’ve purchased quite a few and amassed quite a box of sex toys. I’ve got some firm favorites.
I prefer sex toys that can be used during intercourse – adding sensation to even the most basic positions. This usually means something small and vibrating. I really love those little jelly vibrating cock rings that you can find anywhere that sells condoms:
These are great because I can use them to turn any man into my own, personal sex toy. They’re very stretchy and soft so they’re comfortable for him, and when I’m riding in cowgirl it’s fun to grind my clit against the vibrator for my own greedy pleasure. They’re also versatile enough to be used in multiples – extras wrapped around the balls so that the scrotum gets a buzz. I’ve even stuck a couple up inside myself when he wasn’t looking so that he’d get a surprise when he penetrated me!
But my all-time favourite sex toy would have to be this little guy:
I like to insert it in my bum while riding a cock cowgirl, making me feel so full and horny in my bottom whilst making my pussy vibrate for his pleasure, as well.
When I saw this toy I simply had to have it:
That’s the JimmyJane Hello Touch – a vibrator you wear on your fingertips. It is fantastic for massaging the balls during oral or for an oily wank.
I also have toys that I can use on you. Some men like anal play and want to be gently penetrated with a small vibrator, so I always have a few of these sorts of things:
An important note about anal play: I am scrupulously clean. All of my toys are cleaned after each use and disinfected with Dettol. Furthermore, anything that will be inserted into you will first be covered with a condom. So you never have to worry about hygiene during a booking with me.
I have a handful of other bits and bobs, such as underbed restraints for tie-and-tease, a satin blindfold, some tickling feather, etc. I have all of my toys available when I am doing incalls in Manchester, but I only take my favourites – like the ones pictured here – when I go on tour. A week in London or Oxford or Glasgow requires an awful lot of sexy clothes and lingerie but I will always make room for my favourite toys.
Here’s what I’ve brought on tour with me this week in Huddersfield (including a brand-new big pink jelly vibrator and a butt-plug with remote-control vibrator):
And finally, just for fun, is a photo of a Magic 8-ball butt plug:
(This is the personal website of KimberlyC: an American Independent Manchester Escort who tours to London, Glasgow, Oxford, and other UK cities. This MILF loves sex toys and adores men!)
In the past, I have blogged about my experiences with some of the escort directories in the UK. For a long time I have been saying that I need to get out of the Adultwork rut: it’s too easy to become over-reliant on AW. AW is by far the busiest escort directory in the UK and it is absolutely possible to make your living advertising solely on that site. However, if the website goes down, then what do we all do?
Also, it is not unheard of for someone’s profile to simply be removed from Adultwork for what may seem to be spurious reasons. The reasons are not spurious to AW, who has the unenviable task of trying to weed out as many scammers as possible, but because they are so overwhelmed, they don’t have the time to fully research every complaint about every profile. For example, it is against the AW rules to use your main photos anywhere else on the Internet. Unfortunately, scammers will steal photos and put them elsewhere either on their own fake profiles or in order to make a wannabe new directory look as if it is full of good information. So, your photos end up somewhere else without your knowledge and AW just suspends your profile. You then have to grovel to get it back.
There are SO MANY directories out there, and it can be hard to figure which ones are worth the time and money to advertise on. I have two methods to try and do this. One is to ask friends where they advertise. This is sometimes helpful but since every girl is different, not entirely reliable. Another is to Google things like “Mature Escorts in Manchester” or “Independent Escorts in London.” Amid all of the agency sites, there will be several directories and one can assume that at least some clients are going to find the same places.
I have spent a lot of my time today attempting to add myself to various directories, focusing primarily on the ones that are either free or very inexpensive. Thus far that has been BackPage (who are now back with a workaround to their legal problem accepting credit cards), Pleasure To Meet You, AdultZone, Escort.co.uk, and Ace Massage. There may be a couple of other ones in there, as well, but I am honestly not sure! They start to blur together after a while.
My experience with Adultzone has been particularly positive: their prices are very reasonable and their customer service via email is great. Sharon helped me link my website to my advert very quickly. And, I have to say that not only do I get calls from Adultzone, the gentlemen who call me always tell me which website they found me on. It can be a real headache to try and keep track of where calls are coming from, as a lot of my callers don’t seem to know exactly which web sites they’ve looked at. Like I said, they can all blur together – but somehow Adultzone manages to stand out.
The easiest site to use is PTMU.co.uk – Pleasure To Meet You is somehow connected to Vivastreet and is absolutely free. The layout is just lovely and easy to navigate for both service providers and service seekers. You can update your information quickly and it automatically zips to the top of the page. My friend in London says it works well for her but I haven’t had any bookings from it, myself. However, since it’s free and easy, I do refresh my profile regularly.
The one I am holding back on for now is VivaStreet. VivaStreet is a big, busy site that has done a fine job of marketing themselves on billboards and have gotten themselves to the top of Google. But nearly every girl I know who advertised on Viva has found it to be a bit of a nightmare because of the caliber of clients who call – that is to say oddballs who ask creepy questions or want to haggle over rates. I may get three dozen calls before accepting a booking. And they are expensive compared to most other sites. That said, they do get the phone ringing and I really cannot fault their customer service. I will probably try them again in the near future.
Herein lies the paragraph for the search engines:
In this paragraph I say a bunch of stuff about the fact that I am an independent escort in Manchester, as well as the fact that I am a mature escort who is (sometimes) in London, and just generally an American call-girl who provides incalls and outcalls and that sort of thing.
I’ve never been one to make New Year’s resolutions, but there’s something about the fresh start of a new year – be it the calendar date or the solstice/holidays – that puts me in a mind of evaluating what I’m doing and thinking of things I can change for the better.
My first year was about learning what works for me and what works for my clients. I have received plenty of positive feedback, but I have also gotten some critical feedback that, while discomfiting, really did help me to improve my services. I don’t see the point of doing a job unless I’m going to do it to the best of my abilities. Yes, I do find sex with strangers fun and interesting, but if I’m not continually seeking ways to do new and interesting things, I will start to become bored and then the fun will leach out of the experience. And if I’m not having fun, chances are neither are you!
Things that I have done to improve customer satisfaction:
1. Lots of new outfits and lingerie. For a little while, I found it off-putting to get requests on how to dress. It seemed to me that being asked to wear very specific things (often things I don’t even own, and at short notice) was somehow infringing on my autonomy and detracting from a service based on spontaneous expression of my sexuality. But after giving it some thought I decided to embrace this and make creatively meeting fantasies and requests part of my sexuality. Yes, changing into suspenders and stockings at short notice can be a faff (the greater the hurry, the more twisted the straps!) but having a variety of things that make me feel sexy on hand and seeing them as part of my sexual expression makes it fun. And if I don’t have something to hand or there’s no time to lace up the corset, then I will just say so without any guilt. Clients are almost always understanding!
2. Lots of new toys. I don’t actually care for masturbating with a vibrator when I’m enjoying myself alone. I’m happy with just my hands. But bringing toys into mutual play has been a lot of fun. And my toys aren’t just things that go “bzzzz” – I also have a few things to tickle, pinch, or smack with and it’s a real kick to see how clients respond to these things (when they want them!) (Update: new toys, complete with photos, blogged about here.)
3. Expanding services. When I started, I only did primarily vanilla services that were standard to my personal sexual preferences. The first thing I experimented with was anal sex. I still wish that I could accommodate every cock at all velocities, but since I can accommodate the majority of clients I have found that it’s been a lot of fun and a big hit. I do still worry that when I have to invoke “at discretion” and apologetically decline to do it that clients will feel as if I have tricked them. I know that it’s not uncommon for girls to offer something “at discretion” and then never actually deliver. However, with anal, this is honestly the case for me.
The next thing I added was giving water sports. I used to decline to do this but one day I decided to give it a go and the sight of a handsome footballer greedily drinking my pee was very gratifying! I do wish I had a bigger bathtub, though! I may experiment with using the bathroom floor and a couple of towels so that this isn’t an issue. After all, a tiled floor and towels are easily cleaned!
The means by which I do this sensual cleaning is hot towels. You know how on airplanes or at Indian restaurants you are given a hot, wet towel to freshen up? I was at a spa not too long ago where these were used and I noticed the woman kept them warm in a slow cooker. “I can do that!” I thought. And so I have lovely fresh towels ready for cleaning up (before and after the fun). No more slimy cold wet wipes!
4. The final – and possibly the most important – thing I have done to improve customer satisfaction has been to get new photos. When I started, I had nobody to take photos for me. I am not a particularly photogenic person. I always look as if I have just seen a spider behind the photographer’s head. So I went to a “boudoir” photographer. She was very helpful in terms of helping me pose and had lots of props and backdrops to work with. The session also included professional hair and makeup. However, professional lighting + very high resolution lenses means photos must be airbrushed a bit. Otherwise, all you’ll see is PORES and LINES and SPOTS to the point of distraction. (In real life, we are in motion and therefor naturally “blurred.”) So, they were airbrushed. Combined with the professional hair and makeup, they weren’t really accurate representations of what I look like. I have made a real effort to get the best amateur photos I possibly can. I have enlisted the help of friends and obliging clients and managed to get photos that I feel really do look like me. You don’t see the bad shots, of course (the ones where my hair is doing something weird or I look like I’ve just stubbed my toe) but they are not retouched and they’re all recent.
Speaking of flattering photos, there is one last thing I would like to do to: I want to feel confident about my body. My regulars assure me that they think I’m beautiful. They say they understand that I’m a middle-aged MILF (that is, a woman who has given birth) and so they’re not as bothered about my belly as I am. I have been very shy about this and I think it probably impedes my performance in bookings to some degree. I’ve read many, many times that men are turned on by sexy confident women and not bothered by the little flaws that we think they are. So, I’m going to upload a photo that I love – except for the fact that it shows my belly in a less than flattering light. There you go – you can see the little extra “flab” on my abdomen. There’s no point in pretending it isn’t there. And if you don’t like it, then fair enough. I’d rather you knew now than after you’d paid your hard-earned.
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