When I worked at the Golden Gypsy Massage Parlour in Berkeley, California in the early 90’s, the services on offer were fairly limited. There was covered oral, covered intercourse, and handjobs. Sometimes someone would come in with a bit of a fetish like wating to be spanked with a hairbrush but for the most part, we were pretty vanilla. And one thing we never, ever did was kiss our clients. It simply didn’t happen. I wouldn’t say that our service was cold – but we were relatively aloof if smilingly pleasant about things.
With the advent of the World Wide Web, and the ability to advertise independently, I started to hear about something people were calling a “Girl Friend Experience” – the GFE. At that time, GFE was seen as an extra-special service. The escort would kiss you and actually seem to enjoy having sex with you, just like a girlfriend would. This was seen as premium service, available from the very best escorts.
When I returned to escorting a few years ago, I discovered that things had changed significantly. Now, kissing is standard (and I wonder why I ever hesitated to do it in the first place. I guess because “everyone” said we didn’t do it!) But “GFE” means “boring vanilla sex like you get with your girlfriend” and the exalted level of service is the PSE: The Porn Star Experience.
But what is the Porn Star Experience? I don’t think there’s any clear consensus on that. Is it anal? Deep throat? Loud over-the-top moaning? I don’t watch a lot of porn, but it seems that things have changed there, as well. No longer content with “gorgeous horny woman happily fucks the plumber” there’s a lot more raw action that pushes boundaries. It’s literally “things my girlfriend wouldn’t put up with.” A lot of it seems mean-spirited to me, and it’s the most extreme stuff (such as Max Hardcore’s productions) that is the most popular. There’s a real taste for things like women being forcefully deep-throated until they gag and vomit and then taking a facial while the man tells her what a fucking cunt she is.
I have experimented with offering the PSE, but under a slightly different name: MGWSWAPSE –The My-Girlfriend-Wishes-She-Were-A-Porn-Star-Experience. I acknowledged that I wasn’t going to deepthroat until I vomit and I couldn’t accommodate hard anal pounding, but I could dispense with the chit-chat and tenderness and kissing if that is what was wanted. It was a pretty popular request and I enjoyed doing it. For one thing, they tended to be faster bookings. No teasing lead-up to kissing and foreplay but just pouncing on their cocks like a starving tiger. It was easy to keep the intensity up and they’d finish before they knew what happened to them. Once a client asked me after the booking, “So, what’s the difference between this and your GFE?” I said, “Nothing, really. It’s just faster.”
However, I stopped offering the service because there were still those who only saw the words “porn star experience” and thought that meant they could be rude and abusive. The truth is, there’s a wide range of porn out there and I have no idea what someone has been watching and considers acceptable.
I’m still happy to dispense with small talk and cuddles if that is what someone wants, and I’m always up for naughty things like anal play, dirty talk, and even watersports – but I am afraid that I will always have to do what is essentially a GFE, which is sex between two people who respect one another.