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Vivastreet Blog and Podcast

Kimberly C: American Escort in England touring London, Oxford, Glasgow, Aberdeen and more!
Kimberly C: American Escort in England touring London, Oxford, Glasgow, Aberdeen and more!

I haven’t blogged here as much recently. Part of the reason was that I took it easy over the summer but the main reason is that I have begun writing for the Vivastreet Blog, two posts a month, and that has sapped a fair amount of my patience for sitting at a laptop and writing about escorting! And I have also started working with Vivastreet on an escort podcast, which also requires a bit of preparation.

I feel a bit stilted and silly writing the Vivastreet blogs because I have been giving sort of general advice to escorts and, although I guess I secretly love to give advice, I am aware that my advice probably isn’t suitable for everyone. I only know what works for me and the way I work – there are lots of different ways to work and something I may never consider doing could be just perfect for someone else. But, I write what I believe to be true for myself and my escorting friends.

But for my escort podcast with Vivastreet, I’m trying to focus more on information for clients. Vivastreet’s marketing director and I get together on Skype and talk about different topics. I reprised my blog post on Visiting an Escort in a Hotel and I thought it came off rather well. Then, we recorded some tips based on my post How To Get The Most Bang For Your Buck: Tips on Booking An Independent Escort . This time, we sorted out some of the audio quality issues. If you’d like to hear it (and hear my grating American accent) you can listen to it here:

http://thevivastreetpodcast.libsyn.com/

Apparently, it’s also on iTunes where one can subscribe. I don’t know why anyone would want to subscribe to hearing me babble but there you go.

I’ve noticed that at the start of the podcast, Damian plugs Vivastreet’s new video feature for escort’s profiles. That is something I am going to have to get done – just as soon as I get a chance to have someone hold the camera for me! I’ve looked at the videos on other profiles and I’m a bit intimidated… most of them are of girls caressing their boobs and looking lasciviously at the camera and I’m not sure I can do that. But I will think of something – perhaps a quick “about me” introduction video… with or without breast caressing.

Booking An Escort via SMS Text

Quite a few escorts will not take bookings via text or even reply to texts at all. Adultwork even puts the words “calls from withheld numbers and SMS messages will be ignored” into every profile. Well, that’s a bit presumptuous of Adultwork: while I do ignore withheld numbers, the truth is I am perfectly happy to take bookings via text. I have found that I can screen almost as well via text as I can over the phone. It’s better over the phone because you can get a sense of the personality from the warmth of someone’s voice, but a good text can be almost as useful.

So, what is a good text, then?

Very simple: a good text contains my name, your name, standard English, punctuation, and a direct question about a specific time. For example:

Hello, Kim. Are you available today for an hour’s incall at 2pm? Bill.

It’s that easy! I’m already keen to meet Bill! Now, I may still have a couple of questions for Bill,just to clarify things, but I feel pretty confident that Bill and I are going to get along great.

What if a text has most of the above elements, but not all? For example:

“Hi. Are you available today? Bill”

OK, Bill is still being polite and using standard English with punctuation. He’s even signing his name. However, he is not being specific about what he wants. Also, he isn’t addressing me by name – not necessarily a problem but Bill may have sent out a dozen texts to a dozen different girls, so that when I answer he may reply with, “Which one are you?” Bill might not be sure who he’s booking and then doesn’t remember all the details about my services and rates. Hmmm… Yes, I am available today (or else my phone would be turned off) but now I have to play text ping-pong to find out what time he wants, etc. I am likely to reply to this with:

“Hello, yes. I am available from 12pm until 9pm. What time are you looking for and for how long?”

Now, Bill either replies with a specific time or he doesn’t. If he follows up with:

“Whereabouts are you located?”

I’m going to start to get a bit frustrated. For one thing, all of my advertising is fairly clear on where I am located – because I want to make it easy for Bill! So at this point I will say:

“I’m at **postcode** – please call me if you would like to make a booking.”

I’m done texting Bill. I’m still not convinced that Bill, although capable of using standard English with punctuation, won’t be annoying in person so I’d like to hear his voice before going any further. If Bill is serious about a booking, he will call me.

If I think someone sounds potentially nice but I’m not sure, then I will simply ask them to call me.

Here are some examples – a real ones – of the sort of texts I just ignore:

“u workin?”

“whats ur address?”

“hey babe you available today?”

I have to wonder, does anybody accept bookings from these guys? Who would just give their address to someone they know absolutely nothing about? I suspect the only times those texts work is when someone other than the escort (ie a pimp) is handling her phones for her!

I’m pretty sure that anybody who is bothering to read this would not send texts like that. But you may well benefit from the advice to use: the escort’s name, your own name, punctuation, and direct questions as I’m sure many other escorts are the same as me when it comes to screening.

So, if you want to book an independent escort in a hurry, perhaps from the privacy of your office, with no need for indiscreet phone conversations, keep these tips in mind!

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independent escort Manchester London Oxford Glasgow Mature Escort

The above is a photo of me just overcome with joy at having received a polite, to-the-point text from Bill.

Trying out some new advertising

In the past, I have blogged about my experiences with some of the escort directories in the UK. For a long time I have been saying that I need to get out of the Adultwork rut: it’s too easy to become over-reliant on AW. AW is by far the busiest escort directory in the UK and it is absolutely possible to make your living advertising solely on that site. However, if the website goes down, then what do we all do?

Also, it is not unheard of for someone’s profile to simply be removed from Adultwork for what may seem to be spurious reasons. The reasons are not spurious to AW, who has the unenviable task of trying to weed out as many scammers as possible, but because they are so overwhelmed, they don’t have the time to fully research every complaint about every profile. For example, it is against the AW rules to use your main photos anywhere else on the Internet. Unfortunately, scammers will steal photos and put them elsewhere either on their own fake profiles or in order to make a wannabe new directory look as if it is full of good information. So, your photos end up somewhere else without your knowledge and AW just suspends your profile. You then have to grovel to get it back.

There are SO MANY directories out there, and it can be hard to figure which ones are worth the time and money to advertise on. I have two methods to try and do this. One is to ask friends where they advertise. This is sometimes helpful but since every girl is different, not entirely reliable. Another is to Google things like “Mature Escorts in Manchester” or “Independent Escorts in London.” Amid all of the agency sites, there will be several directories and one can assume that at least some clients are going to find the same places.

I have spent a lot of my time today attempting to add myself to various directories, focusing primarily on the ones that are either free or very inexpensive. Thus far that has been BackPage (who are now back with a workaround to their legal problem accepting credit cards), Pleasure To Meet You, AdultZone, Escort.co.uk, and Ace Massage. There may be a couple of other ones in there, as well, but I am honestly not sure! They start to blur together after a while.

My experience with Adultzone has been particularly positive: their prices are very reasonable and their customer service via email is great. Sharon helped me link my website to my advert very quickly. And, I have to say that not only do I get calls from Adultzone, the gentlemen who call me always tell me which website they found me on. It can be a real headache to try and keep track of where calls are coming from, as a lot of my callers don’t seem to know exactly which web sites they’ve looked at. Like I said, they can all blur together – but somehow Adultzone manages to stand out.

You can check it out here: http://www.ukadultzone.com/manchester-escorts-directory.html

The easiest site to use is PTMU.co.uk – Pleasure To Meet You is somehow connected to Vivastreet and is absolutely free. The layout is just lovely and easy to navigate for both service providers and service seekers. You can update your information quickly and it automatically zips to the top of the page. My friend in London says it works well for her but I haven’t had any bookings from it, myself. However, since it’s free and easy, I do refresh my profile regularly.

The one I am holding back on for now is VivaStreet. VivaStreet is a big, busy site that has done a fine job of marketing themselves on billboards and have gotten themselves to the top of Google. But nearly every girl I know who advertised on Viva has found it to be a bit of a nightmare because of the caliber of clients who call – that is to say oddballs who ask creepy questions or want to haggle over rates. I may get three dozen calls before accepting a booking. And they are expensive compared to most other sites. That said, they do get the phone ringing and I really cannot fault their customer service. I will probably try them again in the near future.

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KimberlyC Manchester Escort Independent Escort Mature Escort

Herein lies the paragraph for the search engines:

In this paragraph I say a bunch of stuff about the fact that I am an independent escort in Manchester, as well as the fact that I am a mature escort who is (sometimes) in London, and just generally an American call-girl who provides incalls and outcalls and that sort of thing.

Visiting an Escort in a Hotel

Although I am a Manchester mature escort, I am also a touring escort. When I go on tour I usually stay in clean, comfortable discreet hotels. While you may prefer to visit a girl in the privacy of her own home, this isn’t feasible for touring escorts. Serviced apartments can work in some situations but hotels feel safer for many women touring on their own. (Not to mention the convenience of unlimited bedding and towels!)

Manchester mature escort always selects clean, comfortable hotels for incalls

There are many advantages to visiting a girl who is working from a hotel. For one thing, you can feel confident that there will be a hot, lovely shower with clean towels for you to use. You know that it won’t be some dodgy house or flat with unseen people lurking in the kitchen. Assuming it’s a decent hotel, you can feel safe parking your car and walking to and from your car. Nobody wants a problem in a semi-public space so the odds of something dodgy or dangerous happening are very low.

I know that some gentlemen are uncomfortable visiting an escort in a hotel. There are two main reasons for this:

1. They think that everybody is looking at them and knows what they are doing.
2. They live and work close by and are worried they’ll be seen entering a hotel by someone who knows them.

Reason number 2 is perfectly understandable. If you are seen by someone who knows you entering a hotel on a Tuesday afternoon, they may wonder what you’re doing. Even though you could be there for a meeting or a meal in the restaurant, it could possibly bring up questions if someone else there on business sees you entering the lift to the rooms. You should probably avoid hotels right on your own doorstep.

Reason number 1 isn’t uncommon, but it isn’t really rational. The truth is, nobody really cares what other people are doing unless they are behaving unusually. Walking through a hotel lobby and taking a lift to the rooms is so common that it won’t be noticed by anyone. The employees are busy with their jobs and really aren’t paying attention to people coming and going. If you feel as if they may greet you and offer assistance, then all you have to do is hold your mobile phone up to your ear, pretending to speak to someone, as you stride confidently towards the lifts.

Some people worry about CCTV in hotels. The truth is, nobody is watching. They only go and look if there is a problem, after the fact. To some extent, this may act as a deterrent for people who may wish to make trouble and so escorts feel a bit safer about meeting strangers intimately. But if the hotel is paying attention and has an issue with the activities of consenting adults, then it would be the escort who suffers the brunt of this. Let me put it this way: I and many of my friends have worked from hotel rooms many times and we have never had any issues with management. If I haven’t had any problems, why would you?

Manchester mature escort always has plenty of clean towels
Plenty of clean, fresh towels…

When I say that I am staying in a clean, comfortable, and discreet hotel what I mean is a modern, large, busy hotel. The discretion lies in the anonymity of a big, busy lobby. The most suitable hotels have restaurants, conference centres, possibly even health spas so that lots of people are going in all directions. A quiet little place with nobody in the lobby but the concierge is NOT discreet! Quite the opposite.

That said, there are a few points of etiquette that you may wish to keep in mind:

1. I and every escort I know will ask you to call when you arrive at the hotel from outside the hotel. (Some girls may text the room but I won’t and neither will my friends. We would prefer to speak to you and tell you verbally which room we’re in.) You do not need to speak to the front desk and ask for the escort. Don’t call from the lobby next to the reception desk – always call from outside the hotel, either from the car park or just outside the doors.

2. Be patient when you call for a booking regarding the name of the hotel. We are not going to tell you exactly where we are until we have had a chance to talk to you and make sure that we are a good match for you. Some may ask you to call from a nearby landmark while others will tell you the hotel to go to. But we won’t tell you where we are right off the bat!

If you think you know where we are, don’t lead with a guess. “Hi! I assume you’re at the Excalibur!” Well, maybe I am and maybe I am not. But I don’t want to confirm anything until I have verified that we should meet. Even if I am in the only hotel in town, I am not going to tell you before we’ve established a booking. You don’t win any prizes for guessing correctly so just leave it alone. Trust us! We want you to get to us on time and unflustered so have faith that we will tell you everything you need to know when you need to know it.

And if you are staying in the same hotel… well, you probably shouldn’t say so. I, and many girls I know, would rather avoid another guest in the same hotel. If you suspect a girl is in the same hotel as you, and this doesn’t make YOU uneasy, then just book her without saying anything about where you are. You may be glad you did – discretion works both ways!

– This is the personal website of Kimberly C, a Manchester mature escort who tours to London, Glasgow, Oxford and other UK cities.

Resolved to have a Happy New Year

I’ve never been one to make New Year’s resolutions, but there’s something about the fresh start of a new year – be it the calendar date or the solstice/holidays – that puts me in a mind of evaluating what I’m doing and thinking of things I can change for the better.

My first year was about learning what works for me and what works for my clients. I have received plenty of positive feedback, but I have also gotten some critical feedback that, while discomfiting, really did help me to improve my services. I don’t see the point of doing a job unless I’m going to do it to the best of my abilities. Yes, I do find sex with strangers fun and interesting, but if I’m not continually seeking ways to do new and interesting things, I will start to become bored and then the fun will leach out of the experience. And if I’m not having fun, chances are neither are you!

Things that I have done to improve customer satisfaction:

1. Lots of new outfits and lingerie. For a little while, I found it off-putting to get requests on how to dress. It seemed to me that being asked to wear very specific things (often things I don’t even own, and at short notice) was somehow infringing on my autonomy and detracting from a service based on spontaneous expression of my sexuality. But after giving it some thought I decided to embrace this and make creatively meeting fantasies and requests part of my sexuality. Yes, changing into suspenders and stockings at short notice can be a faff (the greater the hurry, the more twisted the straps!) but having a variety of things that make me feel sexy on hand and seeing them as part of my sexual expression makes it fun. And if I don’t have something to hand or there’s no time to lace up the corset, then I will just say so without any guilt. Clients are almost always understanding!

2. Lots of new toys. I don’t actually care for masturbating with a vibrator when I’m enjoying myself alone. I’m happy with just my hands. But bringing toys into mutual play has been a lot of fun. And my toys aren’t just things that go “bzzzz” – I also have a few things to tickle, pinch, or smack with and it’s a real kick to see how clients respond to these things (when they want them!) (Update: new toys, complete with photos, blogged about here.)

3. Expanding services. When I started, I only did primarily vanilla services that were standard to my personal sexual preferences. The first thing I experimented with was anal sex. I still wish that I could accommodate every cock at all velocities, but since I can accommodate the majority of clients I have found that it’s been a lot of fun and a big hit. I do still worry that when I have to invoke “at discretion” and apologetically decline to do it that clients will feel as if I have tricked them. I know that it’s not uncommon for girls to offer something “at discretion” and then never actually deliver. However, with anal, this is honestly the case for me.

The next thing I added was giving water sports. I used to decline to do this but one day I decided to give it a go and the sight of a handsome footballer greedily drinking my pee was very gratifying! I do wish I had a bigger bathtub, though! I may experiment with using the bathroom floor and a couple of towels so that this isn’t an issue. After all, a tiled floor and towels are easily cleaned!

(Update: I am frequently asked what services I do NOT offer and I have blogged about some of that here.)

The means by which I do this sensual cleaning is hot towels. You know how on airplanes or at Indian restaurants you are given a hot, wet towel to freshen up? I was at a spa not too long ago where these were used and I noticed the woman kept them warm in a slow cooker. “I can do that!” I thought. And so I have lovely fresh towels ready for cleaning up (before and after the fun). No more slimy cold wet wipes!

4. The final – and possibly the most important – thing I have done to improve customer satisfaction has been to get new photos. When I started, I had nobody to take photos for me. I am not a particularly photogenic person. I always look as if I have just seen a spider behind the photographer’s head. So I went to a “boudoir” photographer. She was very helpful in terms of helping me pose and had lots of props and backdrops to work with. The session also included professional hair and makeup. However, professional lighting + very high resolution lenses means photos must be airbrushed a bit. Otherwise, all you’ll see is PORES and LINES and SPOTS to the point of distraction. (In real life, we are in motion and therefor naturally “blurred.”) So, they were airbrushed. Combined with the professional hair and makeup, they weren’t really accurate representations of what I look like. I have made a real effort to get the best amateur photos I possibly can. I have enlisted the help of friends and obliging clients and managed to get photos that I feel really do look like me. You don’t see the bad shots, of course (the ones where my hair is doing something weird or I look like I’ve just stubbed my toe) but they are not retouched and they’re all recent.

Speaking of flattering photos, there is one last thing I would like to do to: I want to feel confident about my body. My regulars assure me that they think I’m beautiful. They say they understand that I’m a middle-aged MILF (that is, a woman who has given birth) and so they’re not as bothered about my belly as I am. I have been very shy about this and I think it probably impedes my performance in bookings to some degree. I’ve read many, many times that men are turned on by sexy confident women and not bothered by the little flaws that we think they are. So, I’m going to upload a photo that I love – except for the fact that it shows my belly in a less than flattering light. There you go – you can see the little extra “flab” on my abdomen. There’s no point in pretending it isn’t there. And if you don’t like it, then fair enough. I’d rather you knew now than after you’d paid your hard-earned.