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When I worked at the Golden Gypsy Massage Parlour in Berkeley, California in the early 90’s, the services on offer were fairly limited. There was covered oral, covered intercourse, and handjobs. Sometimes someone would come in with a bit of a fetish like wating to be spanked with a hairbrush but for the most part, we were pretty vanilla. And one thing we never, ever did was kiss our clients. It simply didn’t happen. I wouldn’t say that our service was cold – but we were relatively aloof if smilingly pleasant about things.
With the advent of the World Wide Web, and the ability to advertise independently, I started to hear about something people were calling a “Girl Friend Experience” – the GFE. At that time, GFE was seen as an extra-special service. The escort would kiss you and actually seem to enjoy having sex with you, just like a girlfriend would. This was seen as premium service, available from the very best escorts.
When I returned to escorting a few years ago, I discovered that things had changed significantly. Now, kissing is standard (and I wonder why I ever hesitated to do it in the first place. I guess because “everyone” said we didn’t do it!) But “GFE” means “boring vanilla sex like you get with your girlfriend” and the exalted level of service is the PSE: The Porn Star Experience.
But what is the Porn Star Experience? I don’t think there’s any clear consensus on that. Is it anal? Deep throat? Loud over-the-top moaning? I don’t watch a lot of porn, but it seems that things have changed there, as well. No longer content with “gorgeous horny woman happily fucks the plumber” there’s a lot more raw action that pushes boundaries. It’s literally “things my girlfriend wouldn’t put up with.” A lot of it seems mean-spirited to me, and it’s the most extreme stuff (such as Max Hardcore’s productions) that is the most popular. There’s a real taste for things like women being forcefully deep-throated until they gag and vomit and then taking a facial while the man tells her what a fucking cunt she is.
I have experimented with offering the PSE, but under a slightly different name: MGWSWAPSE –The My-Girlfriend-Wishes-She-Were-A-Porn-Star-Experience. I acknowledged that I wasn’t going to deepthroat until I vomit and I couldn’t accommodate hard anal pounding, but I could dispense with the chit-chat and tenderness and kissing if that is what was wanted. It was a pretty popular request and I enjoyed doing it. For one thing, they tended to be faster bookings. No teasing lead-up to kissing and foreplay but just pouncing on their cocks like a starving tiger. It was easy to keep the intensity up and they’d finish before they knew what happened to them. Once a client asked me after the booking, “So, what’s the difference between this and your GFE?” I said, “Nothing, really. It’s just faster.”
However, I stopped offering the service because there were still those who only saw the words “porn star experience” and thought that meant they could be rude and abusive. The truth is, there’s a wide range of porn out there and I have no idea what someone has been watching and considers acceptable.
I’m still happy to dispense with small talk and cuddles if that is what someone wants, and I’m always up for naughty things like anal play, dirty talk, and even watersports – but I am afraid that I will always have to do what is essentially a GFE, which is sex between two people who respect one another.
I thought it would be fun to write a series of posts in which I expand on questions I am commonly asked by the gentlemen who call to book. It’s only natural to have plenty of questions when you’re about to drop a significant amount of money on a booking with an escort. I have a basic FAQ page here, and in a series of blog posts I am going to expand upon some of them.
Taken literally, the answer to that question is an infinite list of things I don’t do, including levitate, raise the dead, time travel, exceed the speed of light, photosynthesize…
Obviously, the caller means things of a sexual nature, but even that is a large list and someone will always surprise me by suggesting something that I have never even considered before. It would take a while to catalog the things that I do not do. Have a look at an escorts description of what she does do and then ask if there is something not covered to your satisfaction there. What I do is enumerated pretty thoroughly on my Services page. You will see that I offer a pretty comprehensive “GFE experience” – so you can expect me to enthusiastically kiss, cuddle, perform oral with or without a condom (OWO), receive oral sex on myself, indulge in some hot protected intercourse, engage in anal play, and share a titillating collection of toys. (Anal sex is available at discretion, so I don’t advertise it as a given.)
I will dabble in some things like role play if the scenario sounds interesting and doesn’t involve something I find off-putting. It’s not really part of my spontaneous, genuine GFE thing so I don’t advertise it. I will also do some mild domination, involving a bit of tie-and-tease, light spanking, or good-humoured humiliation but I also don’t advertise that as I am not a professional dominatrix and I wouldn’t want to disappoint anyone.
I don’t like to take the tack of saying, “I don’t do this and I won’t do that” because it sounds sort of negative. But I will go ahead and list a few of the more common things that others escorts may do but I do not.
Probably the major no-no is bareback/unprotected sex. No, I won’t do that. I used to think it went without saying that if I didn’t advertise it as available, then it was not available, but I was naive. Apparently, there are girls who do it on the quiet – perhaps only with regulars or they’ll hint in a booking that it’s an option for extra money. So, I will make it very clear that I will never offer bareback sex no matter how many times you visit me or how much extra money is offered.
Another thing I have tried and not enjoyed was strap-on or “pegging.” I think toys are fun and I enjoy anal play but the three times I’ve tried using a strap-on I found it very awkward and uncomfortable. Also, it can get a bit too messy. I always prepare myself with an anal douche before every booking, but I don’t expect a businessman on his lunch break to have done the same. However, a small vibrator or finger covered in a condom is much easier to deal with and I’m always happy to do that.
Finally, I am not interested in anything that involves receiving pain or humiliation, or being tied up. It’s just not my scene at all.
That’s not an exhaustive list but I think it covers the basics in terms of things that other escorts may do but I do not. There are probably things I haven’t thought of. If you are booking any escort (not just me) and you have a very specific request, check to see what services they offer. If it’s not mentioned in her advertised services, the odds are that she won’t do it, so you should ask when you call to book.
I have noticed that some of the escorts who market themselves as very “high class” don’t really spell out what they do. I’m not sure if they worry they will look cheap for doing so or if they’re simply very flexible and decide on a case-by-case basis what they will do. Since escorting is legal in the UK and we’re adults, I prefer to be as up-front as possible about my services.
As I said on my touring schedule page, I frequently travel to other cities. I enjoy seeing more of Britain, even though being there on “business” is a bit different than going as a tourist. Plus, to be frank, it’s good to be a fresh face in a new town. Gentlemen love variety!
I was curious about touring: as an American who has lived in the UK for ten years, there is still an awful lot of Britain I haven’t seen. I have a (probably childish) enthusiasm for hotels, with their room service and housekeeping, and I have a general craving for novelty. As much fun as I have providing incalls in my Manchester City Centre flat, I wanted a change of scenery!
My first tour was to London, in January of 2015. I was so nervous about going somewhere new, but all of my touring girlfriends assured me that a particular hotel next to Euston train station was dead easy to work from. (Picking a good, “workable” hotel is very important for a touring girl as I wrote about in my post about visiting an escort in a hotel.) I felt very out-of-sorts when I arrived, but the phone started to ring and the bookings began to pour in so I was soon in the swing of things. I made more money in three days than I’d ever made in a week and I was hooked. It may sound counter-intuitive, but the busier I am, the more energy I have.
On that visit, I met a lovely client who told me about another hotel in the City of London that he said was very popular with working girls. So, I resolved to try it out as soon as possible. I went only a few weeks later and had one the best weeks of my working life. I still struggled, however, with being in an unfamiliar room – this wasn’t helped by the fact that they’d placed me in a room in the interior of the building with practically no phone signal. That was a valuable lesson learnt, and one my friend Amy Vergnes reiterated: don’t even unpack your bag until you’ve checked that everything about the room – particularly the phone signal – is all ticketyboo.
I soon learned that the City of London is just the place for me. The City is chockablock with highly-paid, highly-stressed men in a hurry. I’ve discovered that some men deal with stress through sex. If a woman gets chewed out by her boss, she wants wine and Netflix and sex is probably the last thing on her mind. But men will often deal with it by draining their balls at the next available opportunity. I was initially apprehensive about the sort of man I’d meet in the City. I guess I thought I’d meet narcissistic twats but instead I met primarily normal, decent, mild-mannered middle-class men who commute from Surrey. Oh, yes! More, please!
One of the great things about London is that it is so vast that you can visit every month and, by visiting different parts of the city, never quite overfish the waters. On subsequent visits I explored bits over towards the West end of things. I tried a location next to Lancaster Gate Tube, but that wasn’t a very successful week for me. I tried another week in South Kensington but that didn’t go any better. And I found things a bit more dull in terms of the neighbourhoods. I also tried my hand at Heathrow and that is not for me, at all. While there were some lovely exceptions, most of the men who called me weren’t the sort that I’d like to be alone with.
Other than London, my favourite place by far has been Oxford. Apparently, there is a dearth of good escorts in Oxford, probably due to the cost of housing, and so I am very busy when I visit. And it’s just a lovely place to visit. The first two times, I stayed at a sprawling resort-style hotel right by the Thames, surrounded by pastures. I had a view of a field of horses and a small duck pond right outside my window, which made for a rather interesting view during sex! And I enjoyed using the hotel pool, running along the river, and being able to walk up to the lovely Head of the River pub. However, the hotel is on the wrong side of the town centre for gents approaching from the A40 and they struggled with the traffic. So, in December I tried another hotel – a lovely place – up closer to the A40. I think I’ll continue to go to that side of town in the future. I hope to tour Oxford again this spring.
I have also gone to Glasgow three times in the past year. I used to live in Scotland, in a suburb of Glasgow, and it was wonderful to go back. The first time I stayed in a nice hotel next to Glasgow Central train station. The second two times, I went with a friend of mine and we shared a serviced apartment. I loved touring with my friend. Not only was it nice to have someone to talk to between bookings, I felt much safer working into the evening with her there. I know some men are nervous about visiting a girl if there is someone else there with them, but I warned them all in advance and assured them that while there was another girl, they would not encounter any other men. They all seemed fine with it. However, the apartments we used are managed by a very shady outfit and the flats, themselves, were pretty grim. I mean, they looked OK to the casual visitor but there were issues with the intercoms, with the heat, there was no wifi, and we even had to be moved because one of their flats had no hot water. My friend recently returned on her own and arrived to discover they’d lost her reservation and she still hasn’t gotten a refund on her deposit. We have resolved never to return those particular flats but I’m not sure where else we will go if we want to share a two-bedroom. We shall see! (In the meantime, she and I are going to visit Essex together in early March.)
Other places I have visited have included Liverpool, York, Cambridge, Cheltenham, Basingstoke, Huddersfield, and Bristol. Of all of those, I want to return to Bristol most. I found it a lovely city and I liked the people I met there. However, it’s quite a distance away and I’m not sure when I’ll get down there. I may combine it with a pleasure trip to see a gig and justify it that way. Hopefully this summer.
I’ve grown to love touring, even though I still have a lot to learn. For example: I could get a lot better at packing. In spite of having a massive Samsonite packed to bursting, I still wish I had more space for all my toys and sexy lingerie. Add to that the need for some “civilian clothes” and my ever-growing collection of sex toys, and it’s quite a challenge!
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Quite a few escorts will not take bookings via text or even reply to texts at all. Adultwork even puts the words “calls from withheld numbers and SMS messages will be ignored” into every profile. Well, that’s a bit presumptuous of Adultwork: while I do ignore withheld numbers, the truth is I am perfectly happy to take bookings via text. I have found that I can screen almost as well via text as I can over the phone. It’s better over the phone because you can get a sense of the personality from the warmth of someone’s voice, but a good text can be almost as useful.
So, what is a good text, then?
Very simple: a good text contains my name, your name, standard English, punctuation, and a direct question about a specific time. For example:
Hello, Kim. Are you available today for an hour’s incall at 2pm? Bill.
It’s that easy! I’m already keen to meet Bill! Now, I may still have a couple of questions for Bill,just to clarify things, but I feel pretty confident that Bill and I are going to get along great.
What if a text has most of the above elements, but not all? For example:
“Hi. Are you available today? Bill”
OK, Bill is still being polite and using standard English with punctuation. He’s even signing his name. However, he is not being specific about what he wants. Also, he isn’t addressing me by name – not necessarily a problem but Bill may have sent out a dozen texts to a dozen different girls, so that when I answer he may reply with, “Which one are you?” Bill might not be sure who he’s booking and then doesn’t remember all the details about my services and rates. Hmmm… Yes, I am available today (or else my phone would be turned off) but now I have to play text ping-pong to find out what time he wants, etc. I am likely to reply to this with:
“Hello, yes. I am available from 12pm until 9pm. What time are you looking for and for how long?”
Now, Bill either replies with a specific time or he doesn’t. If he follows up with:
“Whereabouts are you located?”
I’m going to start to get a bit frustrated. For one thing, all of my advertising is fairly clear on where I am located – because I want to make it easy for Bill! So at this point I will say:
“I’m at **postcode** – please call me if you would like to make a booking.”
I’m done texting Bill. I’m still not convinced that Bill, although capable of using standard English with punctuation, won’t be annoying in person so I’d like to hear his voice before going any further. If Bill is serious about a booking, he will call me.
If I think someone sounds potentially nice but I’m not sure, then I will simply ask them to call me.
Here are some examples – a real ones – of the sort of texts I just ignore:
“whats ur address?”
“hey babe you available today?”
I have to wonder, does anybody accept bookings from these guys? Who would just give their address to someone they know absolutely nothing about? I suspect the only times those texts work is when someone other than the escort (ie a pimp) is handling her phones for her!
I’m pretty sure that anybody who is bothering to read this would not send texts like that. But you may well benefit from the advice to use: the escort’s name, your own name, punctuation, and direct questions as I’m sure many other escorts are the same as me when it comes to screening.
So, if you want to book an independent escort in a hurry, perhaps from the privacy of your office, with no need for indiscreet phone conversations, keep these tips in mind!
The above is a photo of me just overcome with joy at having received a polite, to-the-point text from Bill.
I’ve never been one to make New Year’s resolutions, but there’s something about the fresh start of a new year – be it the calendar date or the solstice/holidays – that puts me in a mind of evaluating what I’m doing and thinking of things I can change for the better.
My first year was about learning what works for me and what works for my clients. I have received plenty of positive feedback, but I have also gotten some critical feedback that, while discomfiting, really did help me to improve my services. I don’t see the point of doing a job unless I’m going to do it to the best of my abilities. Yes, I do find sex with strangers fun and interesting, but if I’m not continually seeking ways to do new and interesting things, I will start to become bored and then the fun will leach out of the experience. And if I’m not having fun, chances are neither are you!
Things that I have done to improve customer satisfaction:
1. Lots of new outfits and lingerie. For a little while, I found it off-putting to get requests on how to dress. It seemed to me that being asked to wear very specific things (often things I don’t even own, and at short notice) was somehow infringing on my autonomy and detracting from a service based on spontaneous expression of my sexuality. But after giving it some thought I decided to embrace this and make creatively meeting fantasies and requests part of my sexuality. Yes, changing into suspenders and stockings at short notice can be a faff (the greater the hurry, the more twisted the straps!) but having a variety of things that make me feel sexy on hand and seeing them as part of my sexual expression makes it fun. And if I don’t have something to hand or there’s no time to lace up the corset, then I will just say so without any guilt. Clients are almost always understanding!
2. Lots of new toys. I don’t actually care for masturbating with a vibrator when I’m enjoying myself alone. I’m happy with just my hands. But bringing toys into mutual play has been a lot of fun. And my toys aren’t just things that go “bzzzz” – I also have a few things to tickle, pinch, or smack with and it’s a real kick to see how clients respond to these things (when they want them!) (Update: new toys, complete with photos, blogged about here.)
3. Expanding services. When I started, I only did primarily vanilla services that were standard to my personal sexual preferences. The first thing I experimented with was anal sex. I still wish that I could accommodate every cock at all velocities, but since I can accommodate the majority of clients I have found that it’s been a lot of fun and a big hit. I do still worry that when I have to invoke “at discretion” and apologetically decline to do it that clients will feel as if I have tricked them. I know that it’s not uncommon for girls to offer something “at discretion” and then never actually deliver. However, with anal, this is honestly the case for me.
The next thing I added was giving water sports. I used to decline to do this but one day I decided to give it a go and the sight of a handsome footballer greedily drinking my pee was very gratifying! I do wish I had a bigger bathtub, though! I may experiment with using the bathroom floor and a couple of towels so that this isn’t an issue. After all, a tiled floor and towels are easily cleaned!
The means by which I do this sensual cleaning is hot towels. You know how on airplanes or at Indian restaurants you are given a hot, wet towel to freshen up? I was at a spa not too long ago where these were used and I noticed the woman kept them warm in a slow cooker. “I can do that!” I thought. And so I have lovely fresh towels ready for cleaning up (before and after the fun). No more slimy cold wet wipes!
4. The final – and possibly the most important – thing I have done to improve customer satisfaction has been to get new photos. When I started, I had nobody to take photos for me. I am not a particularly photogenic person. I always look as if I have just seen a spider behind the photographer’s head. So I went to a “boudoir” photographer. She was very helpful in terms of helping me pose and had lots of props and backdrops to work with. The session also included professional hair and makeup. However, professional lighting + very high resolution lenses means photos must be airbrushed a bit. Otherwise, all you’ll see is PORES and LINES and SPOTS to the point of distraction. (In real life, we are in motion and therefor naturally “blurred.”) So, they were airbrushed. Combined with the professional hair and makeup, they weren’t really accurate representations of what I look like. I have made a real effort to get the best amateur photos I possibly can. I have enlisted the help of friends and obliging clients and managed to get photos that I feel really do look like me. You don’t see the bad shots, of course (the ones where my hair is doing something weird or I look like I’ve just stubbed my toe) but they are not retouched and they’re all recent.
Speaking of flattering photos, there is one last thing I would like to do to: I want to feel confident about my body. My regulars assure me that they think I’m beautiful. They say they understand that I’m a middle-aged MILF (that is, a woman who has given birth) and so they’re not as bothered about my belly as I am. I have been very shy about this and I think it probably impedes my performance in bookings to some degree. I’ve read many, many times that men are turned on by sexy confident women and not bothered by the little flaws that we think they are. So, I’m going to upload a photo that I love – except for the fact that it shows my belly in a less than flattering light. There you go – you can see the little extra “flab” on my abdomen. There’s no point in pretending it isn’t there. And if you don’t like it, then fair enough. I’d rather you knew now than after you’d paid your hard-earned.
I’ve been thinking about cleanliness, lately. And not so much about my client’s hygiene – although I obviously prefer when men are freshly showered, I have a shower they can use if it’s been a hectic day.
I’m talking about myself, and my incall flat. I know that clients sometimes wonder how clean escorts keep themselves, as they imagine we go from man to man with scarcely a break in between. That may be true of some girls in some busy massage parlours or brothels. But an independent escort can set her own schedule. I never book clients back-to-back. Not only is this asking for trouble when people inevitably run late or show up early, but it also doesn’t leave enough time to freshen up, check messages, grab a bite to eat, and generally recharge for the next visitor. I shower before every client because I’m always anxious to be fresh and clean for everyone I meet. Also, I don’t wear perfume, unless I know that the client won’t mind.
I also keep my flat very clean. In particular, I am very careful to have clean linens on my bed. I put a large sheet down on top of the bed, and that sheet goes straight into the laundry afterwards. I run the vacuum regularly, as well as dust and wipe down the bathroom. It really matters to me that my flat is comfortable and clean so that the client can relax and enjoy himself.
I think most good independents are as conscientious as I am, although I have heard the odd horror story about squalid rooms or girls who don’t smell very fresh.
(So, Google searchbot thingies: please note that this Manchester escort keeps her city centre flat in good, clean nick and that this independent escort doing incalls and outcalls in Manchester is always squeaky-clean and fresh for every appointment.)
My pal showed me a good sex shop today, over in the gay village. They’ve got a pretty decent range of toys and bondage gear at reasonable prices. I’ve been thinking of adding a few things to my repertoire and figured I’d start with a few simple toys. So, I have two vibrators, one small and slim and one larger and, well, shaped like a cock. Then, I got a roll of bondage tape. I thought it might be fun to do a bit of tie and tease for those gentlemen who want that. Apparently this stuff sticks only to itself and is useful for tying, blindfolding, etc. I’m keen to try it out!
I also have a couple of those little vibrating cock rings that are sold in every grocery store and pharmacy up and down the land. They’re actually a lot of fun. I like them when I’m on top and I can be a bit selfish and go really slowly and rub my clit against it.
I am a playful person who likes to try new things but a lot of the gear I saw there intimidated me. I suppose there are things I could learn, but I don’t want to rush into anything. I think the whips and paddles will have to wait a while!
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